How to Win Friends and Influence People?

Saturday, December 20th 2008

It’s been long time since Bang Imad told us (me and some friends) to read a book of Dale Carnegie, with the title as you can see at the top of this post, without question mark. Pretty old book indeed, but I just found it at Gramedia Matraman one or two years ago. Not the original one, it was Indonesian version. You can own it for about 45,000 IDR, its price at that time. And I think, the title becomes little bit does not really match after the translation, it says “Bagaimana Mencari Kawan dan Mempengaruhi Orang Lain”. I do more like if they put the words “Memenangkan Hati” rather than “Mencari”, feel the word “Win” still on to it.

It is kind of a tips book, according to the way he wrote, it is also easy to be understood. You will even know the inside only by reading the page of contents. He divided it into 4 big chapters. The first one is “Teknik-Teknik Dasar Dalam Menangani Manusia”. “Enam Cara Untuk Membuat Orang Lain Menyukai Anda” is the next chapter, and it is followed by “Bagaimana Memikat Orang Lain Mengkuti Cara Berpikir Anda”, and the last one is “Jadilah Pemimpin: Bagaimana Mengubah Orang Lain Tanpa Menyinggung atau Membangkitkan Kemarahan”. Sorry for not changed it into English, I am just afraid to ruin the ori version.

Plenty stories which were written there were based on his class experiences, as he told. Other stories came from his research about some well-known people at his era. No wonder, some of stories leaving its good impressions in my mind. It gives some points that we could believe if the tips are really working in our daily life, and seems its work forever just like the way he convinced it to the reader. Even somehow, I felt boring with it’s monotony plot. He depicted problems, giving some succeeded samples to overcome the problems, and ended it with a conclusion. That is the right plot for sure, and that is how an article should be written, perhaps. I mean, it will be more interesting -at least for me- if he could plays with the plot. Or, maybe it because of me who is quick to get bored of anything.

Overall, this book is great. It helps to realize if we, human beings, need to get appreciation, love to have attention from others, selfish, conceited, arrogant, and so on. He said those matters as basic human behavior. The tips he gave are about how to handle those behavior whenever we meet to treat people. The easiest way, from which I concluded, is to treat them as the way you treat yourself. What will suit you, probably, suit them either. What you dislike, perhaps, they do also.

Now, let’s take break from serious stuffs. This book is one of my reason to watch a movie about its pun, How to Lose Friends and Alienate People. The story was adapted from British writer, Toby Young. Kirsten Dunst, Megan Fox, Gillian Anderson, are in the film, so I think it would be worth movie to watch. After watched it… Yes, it does. It really really does. Really funny at some scenes, made my stomach shocking. Simon Peg was doing a great job. I like his acting in this movie. After all, it is a good movie to spend your time in the weekend.

Last but not least, let me know if some you have the sequel of this book : How to Win a Girlfriend and Influence Her Parent…