Archive for December, 2008

1430 H

Sunday, December 28th, 2008

Rest awhile from piled assignments, I remembered a quote from Kung Fu Panda movie. This quote was delivered by Master Oogway (the turtle) to encourage Po when he felt down, had no guts, and had no idea about what he should do. Then the Master said,

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift, that is way it is called the present…”

Tomorrow is a mystery. And so does, the next year. Some questions were bubbling out of my mind in these few days. The big question is, what will happen to me later. Let me specify what they are.

Where will I celebrate Lebaran? Until now, have celebrated Lebaran for 2 years, far away from homeland. Although I still could celebrate with all new friends that I met here. But without main family, felt something was missing. Will it still continue for the next year? For sure, wherever it will be, it makes me excited to know.

What will I become? I mean after I graduate from here. An employee, a freeter, a new PhD student, or else? Everything is fine, but if I can choose, I’d like to become a new student (again) in other continent. Europe and America are preferable. As the study continue, the journey comes along with. That is what I have planned up to now. But you know, people can only make plans, for the rest… HE decides.

The time goes and never looked back. We are getting closer to what is destined for us. Such as, we are getting closer to our death, our success, our dream, or so on. Therefore, let me repeat in similar words, we are getting closer to who is destined for us. Especially for IJO LUMUT members. The expired date on the membership card was not written. So, we can only asking, whether this year is the time, or not yet. I hope, mine will expired soon this year.

How to Win Friends and Influence People?

Saturday, December 20th, 2008

It’s been long time since Bang Imad told us (me and some friends) to read a book of Dale Carnegie, with the title as you can see at the top of this post, without question mark. Pretty old book indeed, but I just found it at Gramedia Matraman one or two years ago. Not the original one, it was Indonesian version. You can own it for about 45,000 IDR, its price at that time. And I think, the title becomes little bit does not really match after the translation, it says “Bagaimana Mencari Kawan dan Mempengaruhi Orang Lain”. I do more like if they put the words “Memenangkan Hati” rather than “Mencari”, feel the word “Win” still on to it.

It is kind of a tips book, according to the way he wrote, it is also easy to be understood. You will even know the inside only by reading the page of contents. He divided it into 4 big chapters. The first one is “Teknik-Teknik Dasar Dalam Menangani Manusia”. “Enam Cara Untuk Membuat Orang Lain Menyukai Anda” is the next chapter, and it is followed by “Bagaimana Memikat Orang Lain Mengkuti Cara Berpikir Anda”, and the last one is “Jadilah Pemimpin: Bagaimana Mengubah Orang Lain Tanpa Menyinggung atau Membangkitkan Kemarahan”. Sorry for not changed it into English, I am just afraid to ruin the ori version.

Plenty stories which were written there were based on his class experiences, as he told. Other stories came from his research about some well-known people at his era. No wonder, some of stories leaving its good impressions in my mind. It gives some points that we could believe if the tips are really working in our daily life, and seems its work forever just like the way he convinced it to the reader. Even somehow, I felt boring with it’s monotony plot. He depicted problems, giving some succeeded samples to overcome the problems, and ended it with a conclusion. That is the right plot for sure, and that is how an article should be written, perhaps. I mean, it will be more interesting -at least for me- if he could plays with the plot. Or, maybe it because of me who is quick to get bored of anything.

Overall, this book is great. It helps to realize if we, human beings, need to get appreciation, love to have attention from others, selfish, conceited, arrogant, and so on. He said those matters as basic human behavior. The tips he gave are about how to handle those behavior whenever we meet to treat people. The easiest way, from which I concluded, is to treat them as the way you treat yourself. What will suit you, probably, suit them either. What you dislike, perhaps, they do also.

Now, let’s take break from serious stuffs. This book is one of my reason to watch a movie about its pun, How to Lose Friends and Alienate People. The story was adapted from British writer, Toby Young. Kirsten Dunst, Megan Fox, Gillian Anderson, are in the film, so I think it would be worth movie to watch. After watched it… Yes, it does. It really really does. Really funny at some scenes, made my stomach shocking. Simon Peg was doing a great job. I like his acting in this movie. After all, it is a good movie to spend your time in the weekend.

Last but not least, let me know if some you have the sequel of this book : How to Win a Girlfriend and Influence Her Parent…

Thankful

Tuesday, December 9th, 2008

Sekali lagi perasaan ini muncul. Rasa syukur yang tak terhingga akan karunia Allah. Ya, saya sangat tidak menyesal atas kedatangan saya di pulau kecil ini. Begitu cantik skenario yang dibuat oleh-Nya untuk menyenangkan hidup seorang anak manusia yang masih belum jelas menerawang masa depannya ini. Entah kenapa saya sangat bahagia akhir2 ini. Jangan salah sangka, bukan masalah itu. Ini adalah tentang orang2 di sekitar saya dalam 1,5 tahun terakhir. (Orang2 = kata jamak; bukan seseorang = kata tunggal)

Tidak terasa, sepertinya baru kemarin surat penerimaan dari kampus berlogo lonceng dan pohon palem ini saya terima. Rencana memberi surprise buat orangtua, gagal. Padahal saya mau bilang ke mereka setelah semua selesai diurus dan tinggal berangkat. Tapi apa daya, tidak ada waktu untuk memutar otak agar white lie yang keluar dari mulut. Malam hari ketika email diterima, mereka menanyakan hasil aplikasi yang saya kirim ke Taiwan. Spontanitas yang keluar. Saya katakan seadanya kalau saya diterima di luar negeri. Reaksi mereka biasa saja, tapi saya yakin dalam hatinya bahagia luar biasa. Yah, orangtua mana yang nggak khawatir anaknya luntang lantung nggak jelas selama beberapa bulan terakhir setelah dikeluarkan dari universitasnya yang lama. 

Itu sekedar intermezzo. Pernahkah saya utarakan kegelisahan sewaktu di atas pesawat? Banyak pikiran nggak jelas. Bagaimana cara mencari tiket langsung balik ke Jakarta, setelah ambil koper. Di mana si cabin attendant menyembunyikan parasut? Kalau sudah sampai laut, seberapa jauh harus berenang buat sampai ke pulau terdekat. Yah, nggak sampai se-ekstrim itu lah. Saya lupa mikir apa waktu itu. Tapi yang jelas ada ketakutan tersendiri.

Orang-orang di sekitar saya 1,5 tahun ini 95% adalah teman baru. Itu perhitungan ngasal sih, tapi sebagai gambaran bahwa hampir semuanya adalah orang yang tidak saya kenal sebelumnya. Sama sekali. Dan dari 95% itu, 100% adalah orang baik. At least, baik sama saya. Dan dari semuanya itu, ada yang sangat baik sekali, ada yang sangat baik, dan ada yang baik2 saja. Di tahun pertama saja, tidak jarang kiriman lauk pauk mampir ke kamar saya, yang waktu itu masih harus berbagi rejeki dengan teman sekamar. Atau terkadang kalo berlebih, bisa berbagi dengan tambahan 2 orang Indonesia yang masih satu asrama. Bagi mereka yang tidak perlu saya sebut namanya, semoga Allah membalasnya jauh lebih banyak kebaikan dari apa yang telah kalian berikan pada kami. Semoga kita bisa bertemu lagi.

Walaupun sebagian teman saya itu sudah pergi dari Taipei, ternyata penggantinya juga tidak kalah baiknya. Dan masih, ada teman2 baru yang sangat baik pada saya. Masih ada paket2 khusus yang mampir ke kamar. Dan kali ini, sepertinya bisa saya nikmati sendiri. Biarlah Allah, malaikat Raqib, saya dan teman2 yang baik hati yang tahu rahasia kami. Menerima kebaikan orang lain memang mudah semudah melupakannya. Semudah mengingat kebaikan kita pada orang lain.

PR kita justru ada di arah sebaliknya. Bagaimana untuk mengingat kebaikan orang lain, dan mudah melupakan kebaikan kita kepadanya. Saya sedang mencoba, bagaimana caranya agar dapat mengingat kebaikan itu lebih lama. Selama ini saya membuat pemberian mereka adalah sesuatu yang special. Sangat special di mata saya. Karena special, maka akan lebih lama terekam di otak atau secara tak sadar masuk ke alam bawah sadar. Bagaimana membalasnya? Kalau ini sih sudah ada caranya dari dulu, dan dari dulu caranya gampang2 susah. Akan mudah melupakan kebaikan kita selama kita ikhlas. Kalau masih diingat-ingat atau teringat-ingat, jangan2 masih ada yang kurang ikhlas.

Sebenarnya orang-orang baik itu curang, mengambil jatah pahala sesuka hati mereka. Ternyata dalam hal berbuat baik juga berlaku hukum : siapa cepat dia dapat (lebih banyak).

Insomnia

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

I was wondering, live in a country which has time zone GMT might be suitable for me. Instead of Taiwan which is 8 hours earlier. I talk about time to sleep. I thought it was the side effect of Ramadhan which made my sleeping time disorganized. Afraid of could not wake up at sahur, I kept my self awake all the night. Then started dreaming on the Kapok island (Pulau Kapuk alias bed) at about 5-6, till mid day. If I live in, let says England, then 6 in the morning is same as 10 at night. Hence, my sleeping time will be better. Good for health, following sunnah and Quran (Sura : An Naba, aya : 9-11); (9) And have appointed your sleep for repose, (10) And have appointed the night as a cloak, (11) And have appointed the day for livelihood.”

Even it is not often anymore at recent days, but it still can be happened anytime. And sometimes, it happened not at the right time. Just like today. Friday, the only day which I have to attend a morning class. And the definition of morning class in my campus is about 9.10 am. It is not like when I was trapped in elephant’s cage for 4,5 years, several years ago. At that time, morning class definitely means morning, i.e. 7 am. Or another flashback around 9 years (which seems not really long time) ago, when I was still innocent boy wearing white-and-gray uniform. The school starts at 7 am.

Today, I was late enter the class about 25 minutes. Was left 4-5 slides of material course. Yu-Xuan Guo , is the name of Professor who taught the class this morning. Still young, I predict his age is around early 30 or late 20. Graduated 2 years ago from the university which I adore very much and really wish to be there someday, Stanford University. The side effect of slept at morning was working in the middle of the class. Closing my eyes little bit, and I came to another world. My soul like was living in two worlds. I tried to concentrate, but when my eyes adhered each other, I wrapped into another world. Sometimes, Professor’s voice woke me up, he talked with microphone. But still, I could not really follow the class as well.

I hope it was not because of the movie I watched at night before. The movie  which is based from a book, which more popular to be called as chicklit. Okay, you can laugh after I tell you the title. Cintapuccino. I have read the book and own it, so that is the reason behind why I watched the movie. Nope, that was not exact reason actually. I just did not know why I wanna watched it. Beautiful actress? Do you mean Sissy and Nadia? Hmmm… short of. About the story, very girly indeed. But guys, you also need to know their world in order to conquer their heart. Even after saw it, nothing I can get from it except, everything has been written on Lauhul Mahfudz by The Creator of the universe, Allah SWT. I mean, we already know that who your spouse will be, is about fate.

Another suspect, the curse of the book titled Sliding Pig alias Babi Ngesot written by Raditya Dika. Actually I want to read the latest episode of Andrea Hirata’s tetralogy, instead of the latest Dika’s book. Unfortunately I can not afford it here. But it’s okay, at least Dika’s book can make me sleepy by reading it. Before sleep I like to read light reading, to relaxing brain so that can make sleep easier. The reading which does not require the reader to think, just enter it from right hole of your nose, drop by a few second in your brain, and turn it out through your mouth.